“Grown-ups have a strange way of putting themselves in compartments and groups. They build barriers of religion, caste, colour, party, nation, province, language, customs and of rich and poor. Fortunately, children do not know much about these barriers, which separate. They play and work with each other and it is only when they grow up that they begin to learn about these barriers from their elders.”
– Jawaharlal Nehru.
“Children are living beings – more living than grown-up people who have built shells of habit around themselves. Therefore it is absolutely necessary for their mental health and development that they should not have mere schools for their lessons, but a world whose guiding spirit is personal love.” – Rabindranath Tagore.
“A child’s mind is in its purest form and has no divisive tendencies. We should let it blossom to the fullest.”
– Dr. A.P.J. Abdul Kalam.
“When children ask questions, we have to answer them. It is a primary responsibility of teachers and the parents. If this is done at a young age, creativity will be nourished and children will flourish.”
– Dr. A.P.J. Abdul Kalam.
‘Mother, I am a lesbian’ didn’t shock me. Would you love your child less if she is left-handed? Would you hate her if she is dark? You don’t. It is the same case here. Nothing changes because she has a different sexual orientation. Science has proved it’s not a disease, it is merely a difference. She is your child. And you want her to flower.”– Chitra Palekar, theatreperson and director.
“What the children see, they do. What they do, doesn’t come out of nothing.” – Deepa Mehta.
“Indians across the country are deliberately ensuring that girls are simply not born. This artificial alteration of our demographic landscape has implications for not only gender justice and equality but also human development and democracy.” – Farah Naqvi.
“In our relationship with children and young people, we are not dealing with mechanical devices that can be quickly repaired, but with living beings who are easily influence-able, volatile, sensitive, afraid, affectionate; and to deal with them, we need to have great understanding, strength of patience and love.” – Jiddu Krishnamurti.
“Never compare your child with others. Teachers and parents often forget that they are dealing with different individuals. Instead, they should concentrate on developing the confidence of the child.” – Farida Raj.
“My heart bleeds whenever I see young boys and girls going to school loaded with books which they could hardly carry. This burden does not improve their minds; it only makes them hunchbacks.” – R.K. Narayan.
“Unless the commercialism is separated from education, the capacity to think usually dies when a child goes to the present day schools, and unless the greed for money is controlled, the schools will continue to give education to
make wealthy careers, not healthy minds.” – Rama Prasad.
“There is no end to education. It is not that you read a book, pass an examination, and finish with education. The whole of life, from the moment you are born to the moment you die, is a process of learning.” – Jiddu Krishnamurti.
“Students should not join a college course out of parents’ compulsion and force. A boy or girl will be successful in a particular course only if they have interest for that. So, we should not compel the child to study this or that.”– Asra Garg, I.P.S.
“If children are to be free from fear – whether of their parents, of their environment, or of God – the educator himself must have no fear. But that is the difficulty: to find teachers who are not themselves the prey of some kind of fear. Fear narrows down thought and limits initiative, and a teacher who is fearful obviously cannot convey the deep significance of being without fear. Like goodness, fear is contagious. If the educator himself is secretly afraid, he will pass that fear on to his students, although its contamination may not be immediately seen.”
– Jiddu Krishnamurti.
“Very few people are able to keep their heads on their shoulders when money is in the picture. You have to work very hard for it. I tried my best to bring up my children by telling them that they had no money. But there is a world outside that is always telling them that they are worth so many shares and what not. It is very important to teach children the value of money and have normal values of life.” – Sudha Murthy.
“Reading is integral for children — it aids in language acquisition, the importance of which cannot be underestimated as our world becomes a smaller space. In our society reading has been synonymous with text books and academic work. This must change. Parents must encourage their children to read outside their school work. There are enough distractions these days, but the joy of reading is a gift every parent must give their child.”
– Advaita Kala, writer.
“Who is an average student? Is it something that is decided by mere marks? An average person need not be defined in terms of marks — I would define an average student as one who has a balance between his or her powers of logical reasoning and the emotional front. This balance causes them to be caring towards animals, aware of their emotional requirements, empathetic in general, understanding towards the peer group, having respect for the opposite gender, valuing the environment, being a team player and so on. In fact, in the non-academic, real world, average students have more strengths than weaknesses and they should capitalise on this. An average student who has a stock of social, emotional and people skills can become a potential leader and make valuable contributions to society.”
– Sangeetha Madhu, psychologist.
“Children have to be taught that there are others in this world besides themselves. Consideration of others is as important as arithmetic.” – from Jiddu Krishnamurti’s writing ‘The Noisy child and the silent mind’.
“I don’t think that something is impossible for Children. We can achieve whatever elders can do, if we have the will. ‘Keep moving, Don’t Quit” is my slogan.” – Sreelakshmi Suresh, youngest girl web designer at the age of 8, youngest C.E.O in the world and the first teenage member of Association of American Webmasters.
“Do parents ever ask themselves why they have children? Do they have children to continue their name, to carry on their property? Do they want children merely for the sake of their own delight, to satisfy their own emotional needs? If so, then the children become a mere projection of the desires and fears of their parents.” – Jiddu Krishnamurti.
“I told my junior kindergarten class that I was going to relate the story of the thirsty crow the next day. “We will need some pebbles for that,” I said, and one little boy volunteered immediately to bring them, saying there were a lot of pebbles at his house. “Now, don’t forget the pebbles,” I reminded him after the bell rang for the day. “And you, Miss,” he replied, “don’t forget the crow.”
– Bernadine Agular, Mumbai.
“Adoption is about respect, it’s not charity. More and more people should come forward to adopt. We believe in ties of the heart, not just those of blood. I will adopt as many children as I can raise.”
– Sushmita Sen, Miss Universe winner and actress, who has adopted two kids.
“By respecting a child’s inherent strengths and teaching by example, one can infuse a very powerful sense of optimism in them for their own future. Over time this can teach our younger generation that ‘failure’ is not always a sign to try harder but rather an indication that we need to start approaching the situation from a slightly different perspective. Beginning early, we need to impress upon them that people don’t always succeed. Life holds many more defeats than victories for all of us and that the only obligation we have is to keep trying and do the best we can every day.” – Farida Raj.
“There is a great need to promote those who are like me and make them a part of the mainstream. This can only be possible if we are a part of the system that can make those changes happen. Difficulties are present in each one’s like, whether it is mental or physical. But that hasn’t stopped anyone from conquering them. For people like me, if they get a supportive atmosphere in the form of family, friends and teachers, then no mountain is high enough.”
– Shristi Tiwari, visually impaired girl who got state-level 4th rank in her school exam.
“Effective parenting must move from an “ownership” model to a “mindful” model, where the child is not seen as mouldable raw material but as a unique individual that the parent can help blossom, but only as a gardener would tend to a plant, not as a sculptor would approach a slab of marble. Parents do need to recognise that if they approach parenting as a symbiotic experience, wherein even as they give the child the benefits of their wisdom and experience, they also have the opportunity to become more mindful and better integrated human beings in the process, then the parent-child relationship moves itself on to a more equal footing where both sides give as well take.”
– Vijay Nagaswami, psychologist.
“One of the reasons I am not fond of reality singing competitions is that in our society, kids from a very young age are taught that they are rejects!”
– Wilbur Sargunaraj, India’s first YouTube sensation.
“To understand a child we have to watch him at play, study him in his different moods; we cannot project upon him our own prejudices, hopes and fears, or mould him to fit the pattern of our desires. If we are constantly judging the child according to our personal likes and dislikes, we are bound to create barriers and hindrances in our relationship with him and in his relationships with the world. Unfortunately, most of us desire to shape the child in a way that is gratifying to our own vanities and idiosyncrasies; we find varying degrees of comfort and satisfaction in exclusive ownership and domination.” – Jiddu Krishnamurti.
“We have so much to learn from children. From their approach to anything, the way they process things they are faced with – they are a mirror to you. They definitely make you think about the way you think. I remember someone telling me, every time I tell my child something, the way we correct children, you know – every time, it reminds me that I shouldn’t be doing it myself. So you’re learning even as you’re teaching. When you try to show your child the world through a certain lens, it refines the lens for you, you know. You want your child to be a certain kind of person, and you have to think about what you’ve become.”
– Kiran Rao, director and screen-writer.
“From childhood we are trained to have problems. When we are sent to school, we have to learn how to write, how to read, and all the rest of it. How to write becomes a problem to the child. Mathematics becomes a problem, history becomes a problem, as does chemistry. So the child is educated, from childhood, to live with problems — the problem of God, problem of a dozen things. So our brains are conditioned, trained, educated to live with problems. From childhood we have done this. What happens when a brain is educated in problems? It can never solve problems; it can only create more problems.” – Jiddu Krishnamurti.
“The dominating trait in parents come from the notion that they own their children. Some parents think ‘I have brought you into this world so I have every right over you. You should be grateful to me and oblige me.’ These are the parents who don’t realize that ‘discipline’ and ‘dominance’, ‘education’ and ‘training’ and ‘respect’ and ‘fear’ are different. The worst difference (or the best) being, fear is not permanent. The tables turn one day for sure and we all reap what we sow.” – Abanti Dutta, writer.
“I am a great fan of kids. Two roles I would enjoy the most is being a mother and being a teacher. But, do I need to biologically reproduce children to be a mother? Can’t a mother-child relationship be seen beyond blood? I have always aspired to adopt children irrespective of the age at which I get married. When there are so many kids without enough love and care, why create a new one?” – Harisha, writer.
“My message to kids today is as follows: Great minds and great personalities don’t always have great mark sheets. All you need for a great life is the first two. You’re gonna be fine, because you’re already pretty awesome.”
– Vir Das, actor.
“Over fifty years ago, on the first day of my school I met a cobbler boy my age sitting at the school gate, polishing shoes. I asked my teachers these questions: “Why is he working outside? Why is he not coming to school with me?” My teachers had no answer. One day, I gathered the courage to ask the boys’ father. He said: “Sir, I have never thought about it. We are just born to work.” This made me angry. It still makes me angry. I challenged it then, and I am challenging it today.”
– Kailash Satyarthi , founder – Save the Childhood Movement.
“I am fed up of people who tell me that their children are their lives and key source of their happiness. I want to tell them, “No. Stop burdening those little bodies and souls. Do not make them responsible for your happiness. You are. Live your life and be happy and don’t ever tell your children that they bring you your happiness. Kids tend to catch on and soon they think that it is their job to make you happy.”
– Rajalakshmi Ramasubramanian.
“Cruelty to children starts from the idea that it is OK to have kids even when you cannot take care of them.”
– Moumeeta Mohanty.